dainel b. wile, PH.D.

Introduction to Collaborative
Couples Therapy

webinar time

Tuesday 15 May
9am – 10.30am AEST
Duration: 90 minutes


$143 ($130 +GST)

Inclusions: recording of the webinar made available after the session, a certificate of attendance with 1.5 CPD hours, any handouts as provided by the presenter

Webinar outline

Even the most experienced therapists can be challenged in their efforts to move couples beyond the patterns of intense adversarial interaction and withdrawal that frequently characterize couple conflict. Collaborative Couple Therapy, developed by Dan Wile, PhD, provides therapists with a unique model for moving couples beyond this spiral of alienation and into a cycle of connection.

The purpose of this workshop is to present the principles of Collaborative Couple Therapy and equip participants to begin to use doubling—the signature method of this approach—in their own therapeutic work. Doubling was originally developed by Jacob Moreno for use in Psychodrama. When you double, you speak as if you were one of the partners talking to the other.

Dan Wile sees the heart of the couple problem as loss of voice—the inability of partners to express their inner yearnings and fears. They feel alone in their experience. Hopelessness sets in. This is “loss of voice”—whether it takes the form of kicking and screaming or quiet withdrawn desperation.

In Collaborative Couple Therapy, we take the problem that is occurring at the moment and, by giving voice to each partner’s experience, transform it into a moment of intimacy.  If Joe says to Carol, “It’s always about you. You’re selfish. You never consider anyone else. You never think about me at all,” the therapist, doubling for Joe, says, “I worry you’re going to leave me” or “I fear we’re drifting apart” or “I worry you don’t like me anymore” or “I miss the way we used to be” or “What happened to us?” The therapist transforms Joe’s blurted out accusation into a disarming self-disclosure by bringing out the wish or fear hidden in the complaint. Since the therapist is making a guess, she or he immediately adds, “Where am I right and where am I wrong in my guess about how you feel?” John and Julie Gottman, who use doubling in their acclaimed couple therapy approach, have honored Dan by calling their use of this method, “Doing a Dan Wile.”

The ultimate goal of Collaborative Couple Therapy is to increase the couple’s ability to:

  • Solve the moment—to have the conversation needed to deal with whatever comes up in the relationship and, in particular, to recover from the inevitable periods of fighting and/or withdrawing.
  • Create a platform—a vantage point above the fray—from which to guide the relationship and turn problems into opportunities for intimacy.

Webinar Course Objectives

In this webinar, you’ll learn to:

  • Serve as each partner’s spokesperson, translator, and advocate
  • Recognize the power of acknowledgment in turning fights into conversations and alienated exchanges into intimate ones
  • Use doubling—the signature method of this approach—in your own couple therapy work.

Who should attend

Psychologists, counsellors, psychotherapists, coaches – any professional who is providing services online.




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